"OK. We're ready to schedule your C-section this visit. Have you decided whether or not you want your tubes tied yet?" my OB asked.
"I've decided we can skip that portion of the program, thanks," I replied.
"You do know that it's a simple procedure I can take care of since I'll have you open anyway?"
"Yes, but I have my reasons. If you must know, and this may sound morbid, my husband is 18 years older than me. And, although I'm no a spring chicken myself, I have to wonder what I'd want if something ever happened to him. I mean, what if he was gone and eventually I fell in love with someone else, someone who didn't have kids and he loved me too but he couldn't see get married to someone who can't have kids with him? Tying my tubes seems so...final. See? Morbid. But, I think about these things. Is that crazy?"
"No," she replied. "Makes sense to me. But let me know if you change your mind. You said you were done having children after this one and it's a simple procedure."
"I am done having kids after this little guy shows up. I can't imagine going through another first trimester again. Ugh. But I feel it's only fair to keep my options open. God. There I go again with the morbid stuff. I don't ever want to imagine my husband gone but with the age thing I have to factor it in as a possibility someday. Him? He's 100% sure he's done having kids. I'm wife #3 and even if something happened to me, he'd saw IT off before he'd hook up and have another kid with somebody again. Ball's in his court, so to speak. The snipping is all but scheduled."
What do you think? Is it crazy not to get your tubes tied when you feel done with having kids? And after two C-sections isn't it rational for me to ask Roger to do his part and get the boys unhooked for good?