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Arkie Mama

Oh, I have so been there. First, I promise, it WILL get better, and some point you will delight in having two and they will love each other and play with each other and try to sneak into each other's rooms at night so that they can giggle and play together when they are supposed to be sleeping.

My oldest was NOT happy about getting a little brother for several months. I remember that part so well -- the guilt I felt because my poor little girl was feeling neglected and confused and I was SO FREAKING TIRED that I couldn't seem to make her feel better.

I'm not a winter person either, and of course I had two February babies. Again -- parallel lives -- my second was born three days before my birthday.

I hope you catch a break soon where illness is concerned. That will help so much. In the meantime, know that it does get easier and you'll be the fun mom again sooner than you think.

*hugs*

Arkie Mama

Oh, I have so been there. First, I promise, it WILL get better, and some point you will delight in having two and they will love each other and play with each other and try to sneak into each other's rooms at night so that they can giggle and play together when they are supposed to be sleeping.

My oldest was NOT happy about getting a little brother for several months. I remember that part so well -- the guilt I felt because my poor little girl was feeling neglected and confused and I was SO FREAKING TIRED that I couldn't seem to make her feel better.

I'm not a winter person either, and of course I had two February babies. Again -- parallel lives -- my second was born three days before my birthday.

I hope you catch a break soon where illness is concerned. That will help so much. In the meantime, know that it does get easier and you'll be the fun mom again sooner than you think.

*hugs*

Arkie Mama

Oh, I have so been there. First, I promise, it WILL get better, and some point you will delight in having two and they will love each other and play with each other and try to sneak into each other's rooms at night so that they can giggle and play together when they are supposed to be sleeping.

My oldest was NOT happy about getting a little brother for several months. I remember that part so well -- the guilt I felt because my poor little girl was feeling neglected and confused and I was SO FREAKING TIRED that I couldn't seem to make her feel better.

I'm not a winter person either, and of course I had two February babies. Again -- parallel lives -- my second was born three days before my birthday.

I hope you catch a break soon where illness is concerned. That will help so much. In the meantime, know that it does get easier and you'll be the fun mom again sooner than you think.

*hugs*

Cyndy

Happy Birthday!!

I hope everything gets better soon!

Binkytown

First of all, I'm totally late in congratulating you- I'm not at home and for some reason whenever I try and comment from home, my connection crashes :X, so belatedly, congrats!

Second, I had my first on 1/27/05 and the post partum effect of being home in the dead of winter was HORRIBLE. It was dark, like all the time, I never knew day from night, couldn't go anywhere, not even to the store without a major ordeal, it sucked. BUT things do improve, day by day it gets more managable and when spring hits you will no longer have a teeny tiny infant and you'll get out more, which will make everyone happy.

The having two bit, well, I'm not there yet, but it just has to get easier. Waylon won't be this needy forever and Delaney will adjust. My boy goes through phases like this for no good reason then suddenly snaps out of it, so here's hoping she wakes up tomorow a new toddler.

Hang in there, girl, You can do this.

Allison

Happy Birthday! And hang in there - the exhaustion and sickness is making it all feel so much worse. You are absolutely NOT failing your children, and you cannot possibly be 100% responsible for your daughter's interpretation of her new situation. You've prepared her as best you can, but she's a little human being with her own mind and personality. She's allowed to be angry at him and angry at you. When she's ready, she'll come around. :)

MamaChristy

Happy birthday, my friend! I'm sorry that it isn't a more relaxing day for you, but everyone is right: it will get better. I love that you try to look at the bright side of things and hope that you never stop doing that - it would be a shame if my sunny Colleen friend were to be gone.

Sorry that Waylon got Delaney's cold. Hope he doesn't get the pink-eye!

Andy

It is hard. So, so hard. And I can also say it does get easier, but you know that and that doesn't really help with how hard it is right now.

I found that doing a little one on one time with Boo seemed to help a lot. We'd leave Bub home with dad and go and spend a little quality time together and it was really nice.

Right now we're dealing with almost-3 and a crawler and "he's in myyyy stuuuufff." And it's a whole other kind of hard.

karen

Happy Birthday! Stick Delaney in bed, prop Waylon upright (maybe snuggled against Daddy?), get yourself a shot (or two) of JD in some tea and lock yourself in a bubbly tub for a while - you deserve it! :)

Linda

Happy Belated Birthday! Sounds like you can use some "Mommy breaks."

Can you tell hubby to hold down the fort with the kids (between Waylon-feedings) and lock yourself in a cozy room for an hour, on a regular basis, with whatever you unwind to -- a good book, music, a DVD, a bubble bath?

Enjoy your time self-nurturing and recharging your batteries! And remember: Spring will be here soon.

Mari

Oh, I can't offer better words than what was said above, but I just wanted to say that I wish I could help.

Yes, it's true that it gets better...but for now, I just wish I had the ability to help you get some key hours of sleep. Since I can't do that, I'll say a very lame, "Happy Birthday!"

Kristine

Hi there... I've been 'lurking' on your site for about a year now ~ found it shortly after my daughter Delaney was born and I was Googling for sites related to her name. Gotta tell you that I've really enjoyed reading.

With that said, I want to tell you to hang in there. I'm a stranger, yes, and you obviously have a wonderful support network, but I want to assure you that it WILL get better. Of course there will continue to be struggles, but they will decrease, and the joys will increase. As a 38yr old mom to (14mth) Delaney and a 10yr old stepson, I'm not familiar with the challenges facing a mom of two little ones. I feel concern for you though, as it sounds as if, in addition to the daily struggles, you may be suffering from post-partum depression. Please talk to your Dr about this ~ no need to struggle more than is absolutely necessary, right?!?

Anyway, know that in addition to the support network that you are aware of, you have at least one (though probably many more) unknown 'friends' who are quietly supporting you. Hang in there....
Kristine

midlife mommy

I do remember those days, but I never did it with two, which has got to be so much harder. Even after I went through so much to have my daughter, I honestly wanted to put her up for adoption because I thought I wasn't capable of handling things (of course, I had these thoughts at 3 in the morning).

I was also deathly afraid of germs, as you discuss in your post below. We managed to go for six months without my daughter catching a cold, but boy was I a drill sergeant about hand washing. But she didn't have an older sibling to stick his/her hands in her face, either, as kids always seem to want to do.

Hugs, and happy birthday.

Crystal

I know exactly how you feel, it seem like when me and my husband actually get money saved up.......some major appliance or something breaks, and takes all of our money!

moxiemomma

HEY! no fair! i commented and wished you a happy birthday days ago and it didn't come up here! :(

now, of course i have no idea what i said, but it was inspirational, you can trust me on that ;)

seriously, i hope you're doing okay. i'm here!

xomox

Mrs. Flinger

I'm here for you in a very, "DearGod, I was just there. Like. Just. And you know how I didn't blog? Well, it's because my life sucked for a bit and now it's getting better" kind of a way.

So please, have a happy birthday and know it gets better. You're right. Of course you are. And also? IT IS HARD. And that's ok, too.

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